Saving Throws | Mindset & Goal Setting While Burned Out


Saving Throws | Mindset & Goal Setting While Burned Out

In this lesson, I refer to the "Valley of Despair" within the Dunning-Kruger Effect. I'll share more about it in future ID lessons, but for this lesson specifically, all you need to understand is the concept of the "Valley of Despair."

The Valley of Despair is a phase where a learner’s initial confidence dips sharply as they confront the complexity of a new skill or topic. Feelings of frustration, overwhelm, and self-doubt are common. And a learner may give up.
You may have already experienced this dip as you upskill, or that feeling may be coming. Either way, I want to help you reframe your experience so the Valley of Despair doesn't stop you from moving forward. That's what this lesson is about.

The Valley of Despair as a Survival Response

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With this information in mind, create a plan

Odds are you already know how you respond to your personal Valleys of Despair. So creating a plan of action before you're in a survival or stress response will be vital. Use this worksheet to list out your survival responses and plan for them.

Watch the videos below to see some of my stress responses and how I planned for them.

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If you're having trouble viewing the above video on the flight response, click here.

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If you're having trouble viewing the above video on the freeze response, click here.

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Now that you've seen my survival response and how I planned for them, consider your own. Use this worksheet to list out your survival responses and plan for them. When you notice one strategy fail you, make note of that and revise your plan for future instances when you're stuck.

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